What about the kids from a previous marriage

An important factor in each newly created family is the smooth integration of the children from the previous marriage -- definitely when those children are not all the time at daddy's place. Being a dad of two wonderful daughters, I consider any new friend as not OK, if my kids do not feel comfortable with her. This of course becomes extra complicated when more than one friend wants to start living in and with the family. I welcome any suggestions and experiences on this topic, since it is a basic struggle for me to get this question resolved.

Explaining polyamory to kids

How do you explain your polyamory attitude towards kids? They receive the basic pattern of kid-mom-dad everywhere. Schools tell them mam and dad get married and have children. In the recent past our social surroundings have gotten aware of divorse as a "normal" part of family life. Holebi relations are also getting into the acceptance phase. But polyamory seems to be far from that point. It seems more difficult to become accepted as "polyamorous" than to be accepted as "gay" -- although they too have had their struggle and are not generally accepted yet. In short, the world does not accept polyamory yet. So how do you tell your kids you are in love with more than one person, without putting a stygma on them as being the kids from those weird parents?

I do not have the answer. Do you?